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Posts Tagged ‘Work/Life Balance’

Sanity Saver: Outsourcing the House

Saturday, July 5th, 2008

A few months ago, my husband and I had a shift in our finances — an unexpected decrease in expenses, which led to an increase in funds available. There were lots of potential places into which the newly found funds could be directed. But, for me, the choice was crystal clear — we absolutely had to get a house cleaning service.

I must first confess that until just a couple of years ago, I’d never ‘believed’ in hiring anyone to clean our house. (There were certain kinds of people who had cleaning services — extremely busy people out doing urgently important things or people with money dripping from their fingertips; not regular everyday people, or so I thought).

My husband didn’t believe in the concept either. In fact, he was pretty confident in our ability to do it ourselves. He felt like we should be able to make it work — a concept I’d put to rest long ago. Eventually, he came around and we both accepted that it wasn’t about ability or even our desire to do it (or not) — it was about time. While we generally kept the house tidy, finding the time to really clean it was a growing challenge. We simply didn’t have the time, as many working families can attest.

We’re a family with two working parents and three kids all under the age of six living in a modest house. More and more, household chores were eating away at time that could be spent with our children and doing other, far more enriching things.

At the same time, the ‘outsource the house’ movement was taking hold. Families from all walks of life were taking back their time by outsourcing many of the chores that were eating up family time — everything from housecleaning to laundry to lawn care. It was all starting to make sense. It took a while to get here, but now, I think I’d sooner give up chocolate than the house cleaning service.

What we pay out to have the house cleaned every two weeks, we gain in:

  • reduced stress about what cleaning needs to be done and when
  • less mental energy spent trying to figure out how to get it all done
  • more time spent on things we want to do
  • that hour or two where everything is just so, until …

So, when you think about work/life balance, time management, and such, what’s one thing that, if outsourced, would have a positive impact on your quality of life?

And, if you’re already outsourcing, what have you outsourced in your house and what has been the pay-off?

Alternative Work Arrangements for Moms

Tuesday, February 26th, 2008

I happened to catch a segment on the Today show yesterday, Jobs for Stay-at-Home Moms, about alternative work arrangements — though it could apply to anyone, not just moms. Danielle Babb, author, professor and technologist offered an encouraging picture for moms who want to earn a living while at home with the kids.

She offers tips on getting started in teaching online, selling on e-bay, bookkeeping, and professional shopping. Babb believes that there is an online job for everyone — moms and dads and those interested in working part-time, full-time or want to supplement an existing income. Learn more about Dr. Babb and do let us know if you land a gig as a result.

Getting Things Done on NPR

Sunday, February 24th, 2008

If you’ve read past blog entries, you’ll know that I’m a big fan of Getting Things Done (GTD) by David Allen, which is the next big thing in productivity — for work, for life and everything in between. And, since working moms of all varieties (traditional, work-at-home, self-employed, entrepreneurial, etc.) need to make the most of every minute while working and playing, GTD is a great resource for putting systems in place to help you get there. It’s a must have for better work-life integration.

While I haven’t been able to implement the fully system, I have incorporated many aspects into my everyday life. The benefits that I’ve seen with increased mental energy, improved organization and efficiency have me looking forward to doing even more.

If you’re interested in learning more about GTD, as it’s referred to by it’s followers (and there are oodles upon oodles of us!), take a listen to this NPR piece on how techies have joined the party.

Are you a GTD junkie? If so, what’s your story?

Getting Things Done – File This!

Friday, November 30th, 2007

It’s been several weeks since I’ve posted about my progress with David Allen’s “Getting Things Done” system. While I still haven’t had the opportunity to do my full-blown purge and brain dump, implementing even aspects of the system has helped to significantly shift in the way I manage my stuff. In the intervening weeks, I’ve implemented few more gems that have really helped me stay on top of things, one of which relates to filing.

There are several things that Allen’s suggests that really break some of my own organizational rules. I’m not sure where the rules came from (most likely from jobs in previous careers that involved organizing other people’s stuff), but they stuck and stuck hard. It’s such a relief to discover other ways that mesh much better with my natural way of being. The idea of buying hundreds of file folders and creating files on the fly was so freeing. For whatever reason, in my world, file folders were reserved for only the most permanent of files. Things I needed to retain indefinitely, like client records, tax documents, bank statements, restaurant menus, etc.

With my newly attained freedom, I’m working on my third box of file folders! Creating files for short term projects and miscellaneous information has a pretty fantastic impact. I feel like I’m on my way to building a system that I really trust. I realized this earlier in the week as I headed out various meetings or prepared for phone calls. I was able to make one pit stop and find all of the information I needed related to the topic at hand by just flipping through the alphabet. No sorting through stacks of papers, notebooks, binders, or looking through the desk and assorted in/out baskets. Everything I needed was just where I expected it to be and it felt grand!

The result has been a little extra bounce in my step. Like, I’m really pulling it together as I build a system I trust to manage my personal and business lives, and I’m creating better work/life balance in the process.

Work/Life Balance Not a Priority?

Wednesday, November 7th, 2007

That seems to be the finding of a new survey by Monster.com, which found that workers and employers see the importance of work/life balance initiatives quite differently. According to the findings, the outlook is grim for employees who place a high priority on initiatives and benefits designed to support work/life balance. Employers just don’t seem to appreciate the value that such programs hold for employees, despite the volumes of information available to suggest otherwise. The survey finds that the likelihood of improvements over today’s offerings is slightly better than your chances of getting heads in the flip of a coin – 56%, to be precise.

So, what’s an employee to do? Get really clear on what’s most important to you and how you honor it in your life.

What’s your definition of work/life balance? Go on, get specific… What’s the maximum number of hours you’re willing to work each day/week? How far are you willing to commute? How accessible are you willing to be outside of work hours? How would you prefer to handle things when your kids get sick? Are you willing to travel? If so, how often? Where are you willing to compromise, or not?

Being really clear about your own definition of work/life balance and where you are willing to bend (or not) enables you to make empowered decisions. When you know what you are looking for, evaluating potential employers, job offers, or careers, or making decisions post maternity/paternity leave, becomes much easier. You’ll have a framework for decision-making.

When you’re faced with a decision, make it from this place of increased self-awareness and clarity. You’ll be making a decision in conscious choice based on what you value most, rather than insecurity, scarity, fear and the like.

One Mom’s Balancing Act

Wednesday, October 17th, 2007

While visiting with a friend today, I asked how she was doing with Toastmasters. Without knowing it, we had joined different clubs within a short time of each other. It was fun to discover that we were traveling similar paths. She’s a fellow work-at-home, business-owner mom with two young children and she’s one of those ‘how-do-you-manage-to-do-that?’ mothers. She exudes this clarity about who she is, what she wants, and what she is willing and going to do to accomplish it.

At some point along the way, she noticed that Toastmasters ceased being what it was for her in the beginning. She just wasn’t as jazzed about it as she had been. And, she suspected that it might have been a way to distract herself from the business at hand … growing her business. When she talked about how she’d been feeling about Toastmasters, it was as though someone had thrown a wet blanket over her shoulders. She appeared to be saturated and dragging, and even a little wilted.

But, she also noticed something else … that when she recently stepped up her commitment to her business, she really tapped into her passion. And, it was so clearly present in her being. Her posture straightened when she talked of her business, her face positively beamed, and her vibrant smile reappeared. There was no back and forth. There was no hesitation. She was plugged in and she, and even I, could feel it.

And her priorities were also plainly clear … her family and her business were what lit her up and she knew that was where she wanted to spend her time and energy. But, she had also made and wanted to honor a commitment to Toastmasters, which usually involves two meetings per month (and one additional meeting for her as an officer). Rather than getting stuck in conflicted feelings, she simply rewrote the rules. She figured out how she could continue her work with Toastmasters in a way that fit in with the rest of her life and enabled her to focus more of her energy where she wants it.

What’s neat to me about this story to me is that my friend really paid attention to that inner voice … the one that let her know that something wasn’t working. And then she chose to do something about it. Simply noticing is great. We can get lots of insights by simply noticing what’s going on inside and how we respond to what’s going on outside. But it takes and extra something to choose to do something with that knowing.

Did Toastmasters loose it’s shine because it just got old and stale? Or did she come to realize that she no longer needed or wanted to be distracted from her passion?

Whatever the reason, she tuned in, rewrote the rules, and took action to shift the balance once again … Living in choice!

Do you find yourself still doing things that worked once upon a time, but no longer hold meaning for you? What could you let go of? Where could you rewrite the rules to shift your work/life balance to a more satisfying place?

Work, Life, Balance, Stuff

Monday, October 15th, 2007

As a work at home mom (life and career coach) with three children, ages five and under, who is also a partner with my husband in a web business (Sojo Solutions) and who runs a community of support for entrepreneurial moms (The Enterprising Moms), I have a ton of stuff to wrangle, and it’s been completely out of control!

Many moons ago, my friend Jen recommended David Allen’s book, “Getting Things Done: The Art of Stress-Free Productivity.” At the time, it sounded like it could be helpful, but I was in the process of developing yet another system of my own, so I’d check it out as some point.

Many more moons later, I was still struggling to wrangle my stuff, and getting a little desperate. Work was picking up all in directions and the state of my stuff was costing me in time, money and pure psychic energy. My countless experiments in time and stuff management were no longer functional. And I no longer had the leisure of reinventing my systems every three to four months, just for fun. (I had discovered at some point along the way, that I really like to create systems, but wasn’t so good at using them.)

After being haunted for weeks by things I feared might be slipping through the cracks, I made a choice to take a different approach. I ventured to the bookstore on a quest for “Getting Things Done” and have been hooked since. It’s like Allen has taken all of the various iterations of my ‘systems’ – the lists, spreadsheets (color-coded; time-based; grouped by task, subject, or context), outlines and mind maps, paper planners in all shapes and sizes, electronic planners in several flavors, and web-based tools – and culled them into a usable system. I usually shutter at the thought of subscribing to anyone’s ’system,’ but not in this case!

The system isn’t simple, nor is the process of setting it up. In fact, given all of my competing demands, it will take weeks, if not months for me to implement in bits and pieces – as opposed to a few dedicated days as he suggests, to gather and process all of one’s stuff.

Still, I’ve noticed that even small bits have had a big impact – I’ve maintained a zero-count in all of my email in-boxes for almost two weeks! My attitude towards my stuff has improved because I’m putting structures in place to tie up loose ends that used to dangle freely in the wind. And getting organized has helped me to be more productive with family life, household things and work. My work/life balance is shifting to a more comfortable place, and I love it! The ripple effect is pretty cool.

So, stay tuned. As I make my way through the book and implement the system, I’ll be sharing more about my progress as I go.

In the meantime, some food for thought:

Where have you gotten stuck, doing things your way, despite less than satisfactory results? How might a new perspective and some fresh ideas shake things up?

Now, go stir the pot!

Living and Working in Choice

Wednesday, October 10th, 2007

Join me in exploring life and work through the lens of conscious choice! In ‘Living in Choice!’ you’ll find commentary, resources, insights and more, about being present and experiencing life as it comes, in full and conscious choice.

We’ll explore challenges and successes encountered on the journey to parenthood and the trial and triumps once you get there. The dynamics of work life, career and entrepreneurship will be interwoven throughout.

Stay tuned …