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One of Those Days

Thursday, May 5th, 2011

woman holding clockYesterday was one of those jam-packed days. It started with a 9 a.m. appointment in DC, which meant an early start leaving the house to drop the husband off at the Metro, kids 1 and 2 off at elementary school and kid 3 at pre-school on the far end of town. I spent an hour and 45 minutes transporting and crawling in traffic before arriving at my destination.

By 10:30 a.m. I was back at home, plugging away at work before I blinked and suddenly, it was 1:45 p.m. … time to suit-up for my oldest’s practice 5K with her Girls on the Run group. Since I am her buddy runner for the real 5K coming up on the 15th and I haven’t run a block since the last one in December, I thought I might see if my legs still work. Although I spent most of the time cheering the girls on and showering them with colored hair spray each time they completed three laps, I did squeak in three laps of own with my daughter at the end of her race. She told her friends she was training me for the big race!

From there it was on to a springtime celebration at my son’s school with a looming threat of rain that, thankfully, never fully materialized. We arrived a 4:30 p.m., a half hour earlier than expected so we had some welcome breathing room. After helping with set up, we enjoyed the light foods and festivities as I photographed the event on behalf of the school. Suddenly it was 6:45 p.m. and time to move on.

Although it was an hour passed our regular dinner time, since the kids had been munching on egg salad, hummus, bread and strawberries, I didn’t feel too guilty about stopping at McDonald’s on the way home for a few nuggets to “fill the crevice,” as my dad used to say. It had been a long day for all of us and it wasn’t over yet … we all deserved a little treat.

As we chugged through the line at the drive through, I phoned my husband with a quick status update. We were picking up food and heading home. But, since I needed to be at a Daisie meeting for daughter number 2 at 7:30 p.m., I would only have time to drop the kids off before heading back out. We did a run down of what needed to be done once we arrived. The kids needed to eat, do homework, take showers and get the hair spray paint out before heading down to bed. The would certainly not make their usual 7:30 bedtime, but when their heads did hit the pillow, I   they’d fall right to sleep.

I didn’t even get out of the car when we pulled in to the driveway. Dad came out and brought the kids and related gear in and I headed off to the Daisie meeting. While I expected the meeting to last about an hour, once we churned through the agenda, the conversation got juicy. And, although I felt time slipping away, I found myself compelled to stay. It’s not very often that I get to hang out with a group of women with no kids tugging, pleading, whining or shouting for attention. For the next two hours, we enjoyed real life adult conversation. More about that soon.

When I got into my car to leave, I was shocked to see that it was a little after 10:30 p.m.! I had survived one of “those” days. The kinds of days we all have, some more often than others. The days were we are pulled in so many different directions, spend hours in the car traveling to and fro and transporting various people along the way. Days when we go from one thing to the next and forget to eat because we haven’t been still long enough to realize we are even hungry.

It was such a sweet treat that my day ended in the company of fellow moms, several of whom probably had days just like mine.

Apply Within Expanding Offerings & Reach

Sunday, January 17th, 2010

woman_clockIn 2009 I wasn’t an active blogger in this space, though I’ve been active on my blog for The Enterprising Moms and elsewhere. The year 2009 was one that brought lots of opportunities and challenges in all areas of my life and certainly impacted how and where I spent my time. My coaching business and this blog were two places where I chose to step back a bit and embrace opportunities available to me through my other ventures and to become more actively involved with my childrens’ schools.

The Enterprising Moms, the organization I founded for women who are ‘growing businesses while growing families’ grew immensely over the past year and got lots of traction. Our membership grew greatly, much of it by word-of-mouth referrals. We began offering networking and educational programs and workshops and held our first holiday Biz-aar last year. So many new opportunities and so many firsts! A truly rewarding year!

At my son’s preschool, where I’m a part-time co-director, I was able to put skills from past work experience and that with The Enterprising Moms to work in new and creative ways. At times, especially when I realized that this work was taking up more time that I had anticipated, it was overwhelming. But, because doing this work and having an impact on this wonderful non-profit holistic pre-school was important to me, I analyzed my time and developed new ways structure things to make it workable.

One of my favorite words is evolution, ‘a process of continuous change from a lower, simpler, or worse to a higher, more complex, or better state.’

I think of my life, and everything and everyone in it as evolving and by doing so, I’ve learned to embrace the fact that what works today, tomorrow and this month, may not be what works six months from now. Committing to a path based on what I know today, does not mean I have to commit to that path forever. Change is part of the process of life.  We can hold steadfast as the world, our circumstances, or children, etc. all change around us or we can accept and embrace change and integrate how we deal with change and transitions into the  way we live our lives.

There is tremendous freedom in giving ones self permission to explore, be flexible, be creative and to adapt as life changes – to evolve. It’s through is way of thinking that I have greater sense of flow in my life and all of it’s dimensions. It’s this sense of flow that helps me to address that feeling of stuckness that sometimes shows up and it enables me to reconnect with my essence.

And it’s this sense of flow and the process of evolution that’s breathed new life and opportunities into Apply Within and this space. In 2010 I’m expanding my offerings to including consulting and coaching services. I’m excited to work with moms (and dads) in a new ways and meet them where they are and offer different approaches to helping them get to where they want to be. You can learn more about my offerings and approach on my web site. In the meantime, please subscribe to this blog, ‘Living in Choice‘ and to ‘The Enterprising Blog‘ for more insights and updates and ponder the following:

  • Where do you get stuck?
  • What gets you unstuck?
  • How do you keep the flow in your life?

Sanity Saver: Mental Notebook

Wednesday, June 25th, 2008

mental_notebook1.gifOne day while cruising through Target for this or that, my girls, Peeba and JoJo, were particularly ripe with requests. I was on a mission, very focused on getting what I came for and nothing more. So, when the girls would make a pitch for something they wanted, I would say, “Okay, I’ll put it in my mental notebook.” “What’s that?” they questioned. I explained that it’s the place where I store information that I want to remember, but don’t need or can’t use at that moment. They loved the idea of a notebook that lives in your head where all of that important stuff, like which book or toy they want during this shopping trip, gets put.

On the next trip to a store containing childhood delights, I was thoroughly confused when Peeba asked me to put something “in that mental place.” At first, I had no idea what she was talking about, but she helped me understand that she was talking about my mental notebook. Over the past several months, she’s begun to connect more dots and has asked, “what happens to the stuff that goes into the mental notebook and when does it come out?”

I share this story because we’ve all got our mental notebooks. They hold things like the reminder to get gas on the way to work, to pick up milk on the way home, return a phone call, schedule a meeting, request time off for vacation, etc. Sound familiar?

Although I don’t keep a mental notebook for all of the things the kids request from the stores, I do keep an actual mental notebook, a.k.a. back-up brain, for the those pressing, but easily forgotten things that come back to haunt over and over again (which may or may not include kiddie requests).

My favorite tool is a slim journal by PaperBlanks (pictured above). It’s 3.5 x 7 inches and easily fits into a small purse or jacket pocket without taking up much space. And, with 176 pages, there’s a lot of space to jot one’s thoughts. I also use my mental notebook to jot down notes from conversations had on the run, details about potential purchases while shopping, the phone number of the mom I just met and want to reconnect with, and other miscellaneous thoughts I want to later recall.

Whatever your tools it’s important that you really like it. You’re more likely to use it if it’s something that appeals to your taste, style and needs. For me, light weight, easily portable, magnetic closure and thick pages are part of what makes the slim journal work for me. Sounds trivial, but these small details really can make a difference. If you’ve got a notebook that’s hard to find, flops open in your bag so pages get crumbled or torn, or is too bulky, you’ll find reasons not to use it.

I prefer a mental notebook over a note pad, list or even a PDA because I can flip back through the pages to find notes I took weeks ago. And, I get an extreme sense of satisfaction from filling up a whole book and from going back and checking off things from months ago that I finally. Even those less than pressing tasks and projects have a home where I know they won’t be lost. As a working and entrepreneurial mom constantly taking in new information and generating new ideas, my mental notebook is always with me. I actually do refer to it as my backup brain!

How to you keep tracking of those random thoughts that take up space in your head?

Getting Things Done: Time Stamp

Friday, March 21st, 2008

As a business-owner mom with three little ones, time is precious. I’m constantly seeking ways to do routine things a little quicker and smarter so that I can spend my time where it really counts. I often find that tips and tricks that are effective in my work life translate to my home life with pleasing results.

One of the tips from Getting Things Done (which I’ve blogged about previously) that has really proven it’s worth to me recently is about ‘dating’ things. David Allen, the author, recommends putting a date on everything that goes into your in-box. I’ve taken it a step or two further and put a date on just about anything that I or someone else will need to refer back to. This includes notes from a meeting or conversation (pretty obvious, but I would often forget), brainstorming scribbles, to do lists, etc.

One place this has really come in handy is in the kitchen. I’ve started dating things like the package of lunch meat I just opened, the unfinished jar of pasta sauce, the bag of flour that’s still half full. I’ve added dates to the quick notes jotted on the white board, the shopping list on the bulletin board, and the bag slow-moving veggie chips in the pantry.

When I went to clean out the fridge this weekend, I spared myself the awful taste and smell tests I usually do to determine what’s still edible, or not. The whole process took a fraction of what it used to because I was quickly able to decide that the turkey meat from 2/29, had been hanging around for a little too long.

It seems like a really small thing, and it is — and that’s the point. When you add up all the small things, the amount of time and effort you save can be significant. Rather than trying to recall when something was bought, opened, or cooked and then determine whether or not it’s still good, I simply put a date on. By dating an item on the front end (when it goes in the fridge or pantry or on a list or white board), it doesn’t require extra time or thought later, when I need to decide if it stays or goes.

What’s a way that you take back your time from routine and repetitive tasks?

Getting Things Done on NPR

Sunday, February 24th, 2008

If you’ve read past blog entries, you’ll know that I’m a big fan of Getting Things Done (GTD) by David Allen, which is the next big thing in productivity — for work, for life and everything in between. And, since working moms of all varieties (traditional, work-at-home, self-employed, entrepreneurial, etc.) need to make the most of every minute while working and playing, GTD is a great resource for putting systems in place to help you get there. It’s a must have for better work-life integration.

While I haven’t been able to implement the fully system, I have incorporated many aspects into my everyday life. The benefits that I’ve seen with increased mental energy, improved organization and efficiency have me looking forward to doing even more.

If you’re interested in learning more about GTD, as it’s referred to by it’s followers (and there are oodles upon oodles of us!), take a listen to this NPR piece on how techies have joined the party.

Are you a GTD junkie? If so, what’s your story?

Getting Things Done – File This!

Friday, November 30th, 2007

It’s been several weeks since I’ve posted about my progress with David Allen’s “Getting Things Done” system. While I still haven’t had the opportunity to do my full-blown purge and brain dump, implementing even aspects of the system has helped to significantly shift in the way I manage my stuff. In the intervening weeks, I’ve implemented few more gems that have really helped me stay on top of things, one of which relates to filing.

There are several things that Allen’s suggests that really break some of my own organizational rules. I’m not sure where the rules came from (most likely from jobs in previous careers that involved organizing other people’s stuff), but they stuck and stuck hard. It’s such a relief to discover other ways that mesh much better with my natural way of being. The idea of buying hundreds of file folders and creating files on the fly was so freeing. For whatever reason, in my world, file folders were reserved for only the most permanent of files. Things I needed to retain indefinitely, like client records, tax documents, bank statements, restaurant menus, etc.

With my newly attained freedom, I’m working on my third box of file folders! Creating files for short term projects and miscellaneous information has a pretty fantastic impact. I feel like I’m on my way to building a system that I really trust. I realized this earlier in the week as I headed out various meetings or prepared for phone calls. I was able to make one pit stop and find all of the information I needed related to the topic at hand by just flipping through the alphabet. No sorting through stacks of papers, notebooks, binders, or looking through the desk and assorted in/out baskets. Everything I needed was just where I expected it to be and it felt grand!

The result has been a little extra bounce in my step. Like, I’m really pulling it together as I build a system I trust to manage my personal and business lives, and I’m creating better work/life balance in the process.

What’s the Next Action in Your Life or Career?

Monday, October 22nd, 2007

As I mentioned in my recent “Work, Life, Balance, Stuff” post, I’ve been reading and working with David Allen’s “Getting Things Done” system.

One of the key things I’ve gotten from the book (and there are many!) is the practice of determining the next action for any given item. Small question – ‘what’s the next action?’ – but the impact of implementing this small question when sorting through stuff is pretty impressive.

At first, I applied the question to email messages, phone calls, task lists, and so on, and it didn’t take long for me to feel a sense of flow. Like things were moving along, almost coasting – no longer tangled up a tension-filled, overwhelming knot. I began to see progress on projects that had been sitting around for months.

Feeling that sense of flow with the more tangible, practical things made me wonder what the impact might be in other areas of my life. Pretty soon, I was asking, ‘what’s the next action?’ in conversations with my husband about making Thanksgiving plans, and getting the house ready for a weekend visitor. But, the real gem came tonight, when shepherding my two girls (ages three and five) through the process of getting ready for bed. As they bounced off the walls, and off of each other, I continually asked, “what’s next?” until what had become a game for them came to an end with no tears or pouting.

And so, I ask you, where are you stuck? In your job? In your career? In your everyday life? Where are you feeling sluggish or overwhelmed? Got an answer? Good. Now answer the simple question… ‘what’s the next action?’ Literally, the very next action. Is it to make a phone call, have a conversation, do research, brainstorm, make a list? Whatever it is, take that next step, and then ask the question again, and again, and again. Soon enough, you’ll be feeling the flow and you’ll see how contagious it is – and how the momentum that you create can carry over into other aspects of your life as well.

Work, Life, Balance, Stuff

Monday, October 15th, 2007

As a work at home mom (life and career coach) with three children, ages five and under, who is also a partner with my husband in a web business (Sojo Solutions) and who runs a community of support for entrepreneurial moms (The Enterprising Moms), I have a ton of stuff to wrangle, and it’s been completely out of control!

Many moons ago, my friend Jen recommended David Allen’s book, “Getting Things Done: The Art of Stress-Free Productivity.” At the time, it sounded like it could be helpful, but I was in the process of developing yet another system of my own, so I’d check it out as some point.

Many more moons later, I was still struggling to wrangle my stuff, and getting a little desperate. Work was picking up all in directions and the state of my stuff was costing me in time, money and pure psychic energy. My countless experiments in time and stuff management were no longer functional. And I no longer had the leisure of reinventing my systems every three to four months, just for fun. (I had discovered at some point along the way, that I really like to create systems, but wasn’t so good at using them.)

After being haunted for weeks by things I feared might be slipping through the cracks, I made a choice to take a different approach. I ventured to the bookstore on a quest for “Getting Things Done” and have been hooked since. It’s like Allen has taken all of the various iterations of my ‘systems’ – the lists, spreadsheets (color-coded; time-based; grouped by task, subject, or context), outlines and mind maps, paper planners in all shapes and sizes, electronic planners in several flavors, and web-based tools – and culled them into a usable system. I usually shutter at the thought of subscribing to anyone’s ’system,’ but not in this case!

The system isn’t simple, nor is the process of setting it up. In fact, given all of my competing demands, it will take weeks, if not months for me to implement in bits and pieces – as opposed to a few dedicated days as he suggests, to gather and process all of one’s stuff.

Still, I’ve noticed that even small bits have had a big impact – I’ve maintained a zero-count in all of my email in-boxes for almost two weeks! My attitude towards my stuff has improved because I’m putting structures in place to tie up loose ends that used to dangle freely in the wind. And getting organized has helped me to be more productive with family life, household things and work. My work/life balance is shifting to a more comfortable place, and I love it! The ripple effect is pretty cool.

So, stay tuned. As I make my way through the book and implement the system, I’ll be sharing more about my progress as I go.

In the meantime, some food for thought:

Where have you gotten stuck, doing things your way, despite less than satisfactory results? How might a new perspective and some fresh ideas shake things up?

Now, go stir the pot!