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What’s the Next Action in Your Life or Career?

Monday, October 22nd, 2007

As I mentioned in my recent “Work, Life, Balance, Stuff” post, I’ve been reading and working with David Allen’s “Getting Things Done” system.

One of the key things I’ve gotten from the book (and there are many!) is the practice of determining the next action for any given item. Small question – ‘what’s the next action?’ – but the impact of implementing this small question when sorting through stuff is pretty impressive.

At first, I applied the question to email messages, phone calls, task lists, and so on, and it didn’t take long for me to feel a sense of flow. Like things were moving along, almost coasting – no longer tangled up a tension-filled, overwhelming knot. I began to see progress on projects that had been sitting around for months.

Feeling that sense of flow with the more tangible, practical things made me wonder what the impact might be in other areas of my life. Pretty soon, I was asking, ‘what’s the next action?’ in conversations with my husband about making Thanksgiving plans, and getting the house ready for a weekend visitor. But, the real gem came tonight, when shepherding my two girls (ages three and five) through the process of getting ready for bed. As they bounced off the walls, and off of each other, I continually asked, “what’s next?” until what had become a game for them came to an end with no tears or pouting.

And so, I ask you, where are you stuck? In your job? In your career? In your everyday life? Where are you feeling sluggish or overwhelmed? Got an answer? Good. Now answer the simple question… ‘what’s the next action?’ Literally, the very next action. Is it to make a phone call, have a conversation, do research, brainstorm, make a list? Whatever it is, take that next step, and then ask the question again, and again, and again. Soon enough, you’ll be feeling the flow and you’ll see how contagious it is – and how the momentum that you create can carry over into other aspects of your life as well.

One Mom’s Balancing Act

Wednesday, October 17th, 2007

While visiting with a friend today, I asked how she was doing with Toastmasters. Without knowing it, we had joined different clubs within a short time of each other. It was fun to discover that we were traveling similar paths. She’s a fellow work-at-home, business-owner mom with two young children and she’s one of those ‘how-do-you-manage-to-do-that?’ mothers. She exudes this clarity about who she is, what she wants, and what she is willing and going to do to accomplish it.

At some point along the way, she noticed that Toastmasters ceased being what it was for her in the beginning. She just wasn’t as jazzed about it as she had been. And, she suspected that it might have been a way to distract herself from the business at hand … growing her business. When she talked about how she’d been feeling about Toastmasters, it was as though someone had thrown a wet blanket over her shoulders. She appeared to be saturated and dragging, and even a little wilted.

But, she also noticed something else … that when she recently stepped up her commitment to her business, she really tapped into her passion. And, it was so clearly present in her being. Her posture straightened when she talked of her business, her face positively beamed, and her vibrant smile reappeared. There was no back and forth. There was no hesitation. She was plugged in and she, and even I, could feel it.

And her priorities were also plainly clear … her family and her business were what lit her up and she knew that was where she wanted to spend her time and energy. But, she had also made and wanted to honor a commitment to Toastmasters, which usually involves two meetings per month (and one additional meeting for her as an officer). Rather than getting stuck in conflicted feelings, she simply rewrote the rules. She figured out how she could continue her work with Toastmasters in a way that fit in with the rest of her life and enabled her to focus more of her energy where she wants it.

What’s neat to me about this story to me is that my friend really paid attention to that inner voice … the one that let her know that something wasn’t working. And then she chose to do something about it. Simply noticing is great. We can get lots of insights by simply noticing what’s going on inside and how we respond to what’s going on outside. But it takes and extra something to choose to do something with that knowing.

Did Toastmasters loose it’s shine because it just got old and stale? Or did she come to realize that she no longer needed or wanted to be distracted from her passion?

Whatever the reason, she tuned in, rewrote the rules, and took action to shift the balance once again … Living in choice!

Do you find yourself still doing things that worked once upon a time, but no longer hold meaning for you? What could you let go of? Where could you rewrite the rules to shift your work/life balance to a more satisfying place?

Living and Working in Choice

Wednesday, October 10th, 2007

Join me in exploring life and work through the lens of conscious choice! In ‘Living in Choice!’ you’ll find commentary, resources, insights and more, about being present and experiencing life as it comes, in full and conscious choice.

We’ll explore challenges and successes encountered on the journey to parenthood and the trial and triumps once you get there. The dynamics of work life, career and entrepreneurship will be interwoven throughout.

Stay tuned …